The pandemic-induced isolation has led many of us to appreciate simple forms of socialization, such as gathering at a friend’s home. While we may now be more at ease attending house parties, potluck dinners, and casual living room get-togethers to watch sports, it’s important to remember that this doesn’t give us free license to act however we wish in someone else’s space. We reached out to etiquette experts to outline some common rude behaviors when visiting another person’s home and offer guidance on how to avoid them.
1. Touching and moving things: When your host says, “Make yourself at home,” it doesn’t mean you should take that literally. Avoid putting your feet on the furniture and refrain from opening the fridge without permission, especially if you’re not close friends with the host. Always wait for the host’s approval before touching or interacting with their belongings.
2. Expecting a tour: Don’t presume that you’re entitled to a tour of someone’s home. Instead, wait for your host to invite you to explore their space. While some hosts are happy to show guests around, others may not feel comfortable doing so. Respect their boundaries and don’t take it upon yourself to give yourself a tour.
3. Overstaying your welcome: Be mindful of when it’s time to leave. One common complaint hosts have is guests who overstay their welcome. Pay attention to your hosts’ cues, such as changing into pajamas, and gracefully suggest wrapping up the gathering if needed.
4. Hiding a mess: If you accidentally damage something or make a mess, don’t try to conceal it. Inform your host promptly and discreetly, whether it’s breaking an item or depleting their supplies. Show respect for their house rules and belongings.
5. Snooping: Avoid the temptation to peek into cabinets and cupboards. Respect your host’s privacy and refrain from intruding into their personal spaces, such as looking inside the medicine cabinet. Remember that snooping is considered rude and can be intrusive.
6. Bringing an uninvited plus-one: Never assume it’s acceptable to bring an unexpected guest without prior approval. Always check with your host beforehand if you intend to bring a plus-one, as it’s important to respect their guest list and preferences for the gathering.
Before inviting anyone else into someone’s home, it’s important to ask the host for permission. Even for a casual gathering, it’s a good idea to send a quick text to confirm.
Share any dietary restrictions well in advance if you’ve been invited for a meal. Don’t wait until you’re at the table to mention them. Make sure to inform the host of any limitations you have, rather than preferences, as soon as possible.
When it comes to feeding the host’s pets, be cautious about sharing your food. Always ask the host before giving any food to their pets, as the animals may have allergies or be on a special diet.
Respect the shoe rules of your host. Whether shoes are to be kept on or removed is a personal preference, so be attentive to what your host prefers. Be prepared to take off your shoes if asked and consider bringing socks or slippers if needed.
Avoid interfering with the setup of the dinner table, such as switching place cards. Hosts put effort into organizing events like dinner parties, so it’s important to respect their arrangements.
As a guest, it’s courteous to bring a small gift for the host when attending an event. A bottle of wine or a bouquet of flowers are thoughtful gestures that show appreciation for the invitation.
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