In this article, experts delve into the various types and levels of introversion and how to leverage them to your benefit. Rebecca Smith via Getty Images
That satisfying moment when you return home and can unwind, changing into PJs and indulging in activities of your choice, alone, is truly special, isn’t it? If you are a homebody or someone who enjoys quiet, personal time, you are likely an introvert. You find solace in spending time alone (or with a few close loved ones) and prefer such settings.
Interestingly, there are four distinct types of introverts: social introverts, thinking introverts, anxious introverts, and restrained introverts. Below, therapists explore each type in detail and offer advice on embracing them:
The Social Introvert
Rhea Freeman, a business coach, mentor, and author of “You’ve Got This,” is an introvert despite her public speaking engagements and media appearances. She explains that being an introvert for her means preferring smaller groups and familiar faces. While she can manage in larger groups, she finds it challenging, especially with strangers. Freeman admits that she tends to avoid big events but is making an effort to step out of her comfort zone.
Signs of social introversion include enjoying intimate gatherings or one-on-one conversations, finding solace in solitary activities, feeling drained after social interactions (even if enjoyable), and a preference for written communication.
Therapists recommend that social introverts embrace their nature by engaging in small gatherings and allowing time to recharge afterward. Setting clear boundaries and communicating needs with loved ones can also enhance social interactions without feeling drained or resentful.
The Thinking Introvert
Fiona Fletcher Reid, a 38-year-old podcast host from Scotland, identifies as a thinking introvert. She thrives on introspection and contemplation, finding solace in her thoughts and daydreams.
To prevent feeling overwhelmed or depressed, she prioritizes her mental well-being by indulging in her passion for reading nonfiction on topics like mental health and spirituality. She also sets aside time for deep thinking and creative exploration with tarot cards as a daily habit. Pulling a tarot card triggers a moment of introspection that positively impacts her day. Signs of being a thinking introvert, as noted by therapists, include daydreaming, deep reflection, high self-awareness, enjoying solitary creative activities, getting lost in thought during conversations, and feeling overwhelmed by fast-paced discussions.
Therapists suggest that thinking introverts should find a happy balance that allows for social interaction without compromising their need for solitude. This may involve activities like going on trips with friends while also scheduling independent time, practicing mindfulness, engaging in creative pursuits, and sharing insights with others. Introspection is valued for fostering personal and creative growth, organizing thoughts, and allowing mental space without apologies.
Alternatively, social introverts prefer smaller social groups and familiar environments. Signs of anxious introversion include feeling nervous or self-conscious before social events, avoiding unfamiliar social interactions due to fear of judgment, overanalyzing past social encounters, feeling more comfortable with trusted individuals, and hesitating to approach new people.
Therapists advise anxious introverts to gradually expose themselves to social situations, seek safe spaces or supportive individuals, and consider bringing a friend along or attending smaller gatherings. Therapy can help address anxious thoughts and feelings, practice social interactions, and develop self-compassion skills to challenge negative self-talk. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is recommended as a useful tool for managing anxious introversion.
Reframing your thoughts can lead to more positive emotions and behaviors. Slavens suggests viewing your brain’s protection as a positive intention, even if it can be overwhelming at times. Anderson reminds us that it’s okay to feel nervous and that we’re not judged as harshly as we may think.
Erin Mantz, a restrained introvert, describes her experience as exhausting, needing to navigate unfamiliar situations at work and socially. She processes thoughts internally, only sharing when asked. Traits of restrained introversion include observing before participating, needing time to warm up in new groups, and valuing predictability.
Therapists advise restrained introverts to embrace their pace, surround themselves with understanding individuals, and gently challenge themselves to engage more. Recognizing the value of thoughtful contributions can boost confidence. Communication of needs and engaging in self-confidence activities are encouraged.
Being an introvert is not a negative trait. Each personality type has its strengths, and embracing them can lead to more meaningful contributions. Introverts possess deep thinking, listening skills, empathy, creativity, and leadership qualities. You don’t need to be the loudest to make an impact.
Ed Anderson expressed his agreement stating, “In a society that can often feel like a competition to be the most vocal or occupied, introverts serve as a reminder of the strength found in tranquility and profundity.” Related articles include: “Identifying the 3 Types of Perfectionism – Where Do You Belong?” “My Journey as an Introvert: How a Single Adjustment Led Me to Form Dozens of Friendships,” and “Insights Into the Desires of Introverts That Their Employers Should Be Aware Of.”
