Creating and maintaining friendships is crucial at all stages of life, especially as you get older, according to experts. At 96 years old, Betty Parker prefers focusing on her own activities rather than listening to others’ health complaints. She spends her time picking roses, reading, playing cards with friends, and even baking pies when hosting guests. While she admits she may lack the energy to bake pies now and then opts for store-bought, Parker emphasizes that her 90s have been fulfilling and connected, a challenge many people face regardless of age.
In addition to healthy habits like good nutrition and exercise, addressing loneliness and social isolation is essential for a longer and more enjoyable life, notes Dr. Kerry Burnight, a gerontologist in California. Dr. John Batsis, a geriatrician, stresses the importance of not just living longer but living well in older age. Burnight highlights four key factors for maximizing joy in later years: growth, connection, adaptation, and giving.
It’s never too early or too late to start shaping a fulfilling life. Planning for retirement and finding new hobbies beforehand can ease the transition, according to Batsis. For those already retired, Burnight suggests pursuing long-held passions, like writing a book, at any age. Engaging in challenging activities, rather than just routine mental exercises, can promote brain health and enhance the enjoyment of aging.
Embracing growth and new experiences is key to thriving in the later stages of life. Dr. Burnight and her family exemplify this philosophy, enjoying quality time together and celebrating life’s milestones.
“Trying new things can lead to growth,” she said. “Continuing with your usual routine may not help you grow.” One of Batsis’ patients took up golf after retiring, but also picked up playing the guitar, an activity he had never tried before. Despite not considering himself musically inclined, this new hobby opened up a whole new world for him, according to Batsis. Now, the patient plays the guitar and attends local concerts, expanding his horizons. Batsis advises finding a hobby that keeps you physically active, as staying active helps maintain strength as you age. It’s important to find something enjoyable rather than forcing yourself into activities deemed suitable for older age, he added. Burnight warns caregivers against doing tasks for loved ones that they can do themselves, emphasizing the importance of facing challenges.
Parker meets monthly with a group called “the youngs” to play canasta, a group she introduced to the game. Despite the age difference, she values having a diverse group of friends. Diversifying social connections is crucial, especially after losing close relationships. Burnight suggests using social media to reconnect with old friends to expand social circles. Small interactions can lead to meaningful relationships, she noted. Being proactive in maintaining connections is vital to combat loneliness, she emphasized.
It’s never too late to explore new hobbies or interests, even in your 80s, Burnight pointed out. Parker finds joy in her 90s, adapting to changes like giving up tennis and using a walker. Despite challenges, she finds joy in spending time with family and being involved in community events. Adapting to changing circumstances is essential for successful aging, Burnight concluded.
“They have the ability to welcome and even embrace change.” “Adapting effectively involves acknowledging that facing challenges is a natural part of life. It’s about how you choose to respond to those challenges,” she explained. Studies indicate that one’s attitude towards aging significantly influences the aging process itself, she noted. “Individuals who view aging as a period of ongoing personal development live an average of 7.5 years longer than those who resign themselves to old age and inactivity,” Burnight emphasized. However, if knitting brings you joy or you wish to explore it as a new interest, that’s perfectly fine too. Instead of focusing on retirement, she advises redirecting your attention towards the contributions you can make. Giving back has been linked to increased levels of happiness, meaning, and longevity, according to Burnight. Feeling overwhelmed by all this advice? Start small. Whether it’s sharing a lemon from your tree with a friend or babysitting for your neighbors, every act of generosity, such as creating art, tending to a garden, or reaching out to someone in need, can provide a sense of purpose. “Purpose is found in everyday actions and decisions,” she added. “It’s about recognizing the opportunities to make a positive impact each day.” Stay motivated with a weekly dose of tips for a healthier lifestyle. Subscribe to CNN’s Life, But Better newsletter for helpful information and resources aimed at enhancing your well-being. To access more CNN updates and newsletters, register for an account on CNN.com.
