“Mother living abroad shares insights into European parenting techniques”
Are parents in other countries doing it better than those in the U.S.? An American mother living overseas believes that European countries have the right approach.
Entrepreneur Monica Millington, along with her husband Tom and their infant son Cruz, are currently residing in Singapore, where they are exposed to a diverse mix of cultures and nationalities among their friends.
In a recent Instagram post, Millington expressed her excitement about embracing the art of European parenting. She mentioned reading the book “Bringing Up Bébé” which resonated with her parenting ideals even before discovering the concept of French parenting. The couple prefers a more relaxed and inclusive parenting style that allows them to take Cruz to the beach on weekends while enjoying some quality time themselves.
Millington further explained that they don’t hesitate to bring Cruz along to restaurants, slightly adjusting their dining times, or include him in adult dinner parties, allowing him to stay up a bit later than usual.
She emphasized that every parent has their unique style, but she shared her experiences to provide insight for expecting parents who may be wondering about different parenting approaches.
Comments on her post included reflections on similar childhood experiences, with some expressing gratitude for being raised in a similar manner that allowed them to partake in adult activities and conversations. Others mentioned feeling lonely or missing out on certain aspects due to a more independent upbringing.
Overall, Millington’s perspective sheds light on the idea that there are various parenting styles, and what works best is ultimately a personal choice based on individual circumstances and preferences.
I felt a bit let down when my parents didn’t prioritize planning activities that I enjoyed. I’m now 28 and have limited contact with them.” Monica Millington, an American, and her British husband Tom are raising their son in Singapore. Some individuals frowned upon European stereotypes: “What is European Parenting? Finns definitely don’t raise kids the way Italians do, haha.” “Not understanding that European countries and cultures vary significantly is a clear sign of ignorance.” “Each country has its unique parenting styles.” “In Europe, parents engage in activities with their kids because it’s normal.” “Americans don’t include children in their communities as much as they should. They are more accepting of dogs in public than children. Kids are either isolated in specific places or kept at home. Then people wonder why they struggle to behave in public. Children need the opportunity to learn to be part of a community. A 3-year-old might scream; they’re learning to be human. Show them some patience.” “Americans hesitate to do this because childless individuals often react negatively when children are in public.” Parenting methods differ based on individuals, cultures, generations, and countries. Nordic nations have babies nap outdoors for fresh air, while multigenerational households are common in Greece, Portugal, and Italy, offering family support. Europeans generally have more family time compared to Americans due to work policies. Government policies greatly impact families; some European countries offer stipends and invest in childcare, unlike the U.S., where federal paid leave policies are lacking. Monica Millington and her husband are raising their son in Singapore. Millington admits feeling nervous about having children due to negative portrayals of parenting. She emphasizes the freedom to choose one’s parenting style. She avoids overloading her son’s schedule with just baby activities, opting for age-appropriate experiences like travel, visiting friends, and attending events. Millington sees Cruz thriving in this environment, adapting well to various situations. She shares her experiences on social media to inspire other young mothers. Despite living abroad, Millington has not lost touch with her upbringing.
“While there are days when I miss showers, struggle with lack of sleep, or have to change plans due to the baby,” she explains, “we still manage to have adventurous moments.” This article was first published on TODAY.com on February 22, 2024.
